Why Don't We?

Why do people say or do the things they do?

People set goals all the time, some people announce them and others keep it to themselves, but what ultimately makes us follow through with these goals?

Why don’t we do the things that we set out to do.

This blog post is intended to be more of an open discussion format to allow for thought and conversation on this topic, as opposed to a statistically written paper.

Please feel free to comment below to continue the discussion.

What stops you?

When I find myself faced with a task, there could be a plethora of reasons why I don’t do it.

There are a lot of times where I feel dread at the thought of a task.

One thing I have trouble with is cooking breakfast, or honestly any meal.

Something internally stops me from performing that task and most mornings I fight a feeling of dread rather than just cooking breakfast for myself.

I know a lot of people that feel this way.

Whether it’s eating right or going to the gym, our mindset plays a large role in why we don’t do things.

I believe that often times we think too much about the process and scare ourselves out of experiencing it.

Most of us tend to spend more time on thinking than doing. Wouldn’t you agree?

When I want to write an article, I have to be in a state of “doing” rather than “thinking,” because the second I think too much about the task at hand I lose motivation to do it.

Which leads me to another thought.

How much do you self-sabotage?

Self sabotage can be performed in many different ways; let’s say you have to go to the gym.

But the thought of packing clothes, changing, warming up, exercising, doing cardio, driving home, showering and going about your day is tiring.

Hell, it was even tiring for me to write that. The time and energy that goes into thinking about the task at hand kills the excitement or drive to complete the task.

It makes it mundane, boring and unappealing or even sometimes terrifying.

Going back to my example of cooking, it’s not a problem of physically doing but more of the feeling of dreading parts of the process.

I love cooking, I really do; but I hate having to clean everything up at the end.

So I will get inside my head and say “I don’t want to clean the dishes after, so I’ll just grab something on the way to work instead,” knowing that it will actually take me longer to drive somewhere to have them prepare it for me.

So why let one little thing ruin the whole thing?

There are so many great things that we could do, like eat healthier, start exercising or even read a book.

But we restrict ourselves by thinking about it. Do I really have the time for this?

Everybody has the same twenty four hours in a day, it’s all about how you use them.

However, it is easier to say “fuck it” and jump on Instagram or Facebook “for a sec.”

Hell, it’s just easier to just pick up the phone and start browsing around and distracting ourselves from the day.

So maybe this behavior pattern is daily conditioning.

We do things so fast today. You can check your email in a second, text somebody in seconds or even find the information you need in minutes.

Nothing takes time anymore, it’s all fast, fast, fast.

I feel like this is destroying our abilities to grow as individuals.

We rely too heavily on instant gratification that we seldom enjoy the process of actually doing something.

There are so many people who want to get in shape, but not enough people that want to simply enjoy the process of a good workout.

So how do you change that?

Find things that challenge you daily and do them.

I myself have a hard time some days not checking my phone, which seems like a silly thing to point out but it’s huge to me.

By getting in the HABIT of checking constantly, I am thinking that there is always something more important there than in the current moment.

What I do often throughout my day to correct this habit is give myself incentives.

If I write this blog post I can pick up my phone for personal reasons, if I make a quality video I can take a 20 minute nap afterwards.

It’s important to understand what motivates you.

Because there are things that you love to do on a daily basis without knowing.

Maybe you love to listen to a certain song over and over again (like I do), or maybe you just want to talk to your friends.

Use these desires to understand “why you do,” and that will give you a better understanding as to “why you don’t.”

I often will leverage the things i really want to do as my reward at the end of the task I am currently faced with so long as I am satisfied with the result.

Hopefully this article helps you.

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If you have thoughts on this article I’d love to hear them in a comment below so we can carry out the conversation!

Tyler Shamaly