Stop Fighting Yourself

Have you ever considered that you are fighting yourself each and every day?

We live in a modern world filled with computers and automation which leads to ease of living and abundant information. This modern world can either benefit or harm you depending on how you use what you’re given.

Most people are being used by their devices, which inevitably results in boredom, lack of confidence and a slew of other issues. Rather than using these tools, they are becoming obsessions, distractions and crutches.

Stop the nonsense. Start working on yourself!

Every day you are granted the privilege and choice to work on yourself, your problems and your short-comings or to let them perpetuate.

You may want to wait until tomorrow to start working towards your career, to start working out or to chip away at breaking your bad habits, but procrastination won’t get you anywhere.

The problem with procrastination, especially in this department, is that you will develop a habit of accumulating debt, depression and negative energy which pulls you further away from fulfillment.

Most people do it anyway, letting the “easy way out” be the only way out. This is why our world of physical, mental and emotional problems is growing further and further out of balance.

Because it’s easier to check your Facebook or Instagram than it is to sit in silence with yourself, work towards your goals or break bad habits.

Time by yourself is becoming less of a thing, people stay connected to anything and everything to fill the silence that is your being, which results in losing touch with yourself.

Have you ever sat with yourself?

Not on the internet, not on your phone, but in complete and utter silence?

I bet you that you couldn’t last for more than a few minutes without feeling the need to click a button, gaze into a screen or drift away into endless scrolling due to a slight sense of anxiety.

But if you did, you would find what you are really missing; direction, motivation, purpose and peace of mind.

Maybe you have problems with self-imagery, that could be easily solved by going to the gym, eating healthier and drinking more water. Most people would rather look online, complain and compare than to find out what makes them feel good.

What makes you feel good might not be the same as the next person.

That is why it is important to understand what you are feeling verses what you are being taught and conditioned to believe is good for you.

We all know that exercise is good for us, but it’s challenging. You have to be fine with failing, you have to understand that you are limited in certain areas and that there is always room for growth.

For most, I find that’s a hard pill to swallow, but that’s just the truth; and if we can work towards that truth then I believe we will have a lot more fulfilled and happier individuals in this world.

It’s important to understand that human beings are creatures of habit, and our habits largely define who we’ve been, who we are and who we’re bound to be.

We are designed to be goal-oriented.

It feels good to check off your to-do list, it feels good to finish a challenging task, it feels good to have some sense of purpose in what you’re doing.

That’s why things like working out are great habits to get into, they establish a habitual reward system. When you workout you work through a sense of discomfort and hesitation to gain a rush of “feel good.”

All of the chemicals that rush through your body after a good workout is your reward, which is important in human behavior and the development of habits.

When something makes you feel good, you are more likely to do it again. Unfortunately, things that make us feel good often are harder to achieve or accomplish, which most people opt out of.

They get addicted to their device, sugary snacks and other things that are commonly known to create discontent, anxiety and distress.

Finding your balance is important.

Coming from a practitioner in health and wellness I think it’s important to understand the difference between healthy habits and unhealthy obsessions.

I will be the first to admit that most people who live a “fitness lifestyle” are living rather unhealthy lifestyles.

Counting down micro and macro nutrients is something I used to be a fanatic about. I was obsessed with the number on the scale, I was obsessed with gaining more muscle mass, and in that obsession I lost myself.

I was constantly checking the mirror, always looking at the scale, trying to find the “me” that I so desperately wanted to manifest.

What I found was that the obsession with becoming a bigger, badder and stronger me was taking me further and further away from myself.

Instead of checking social media, consuming a bunch of sugary snacks or eating like crap I took my habit of health and wellness and turned it into negative fuel for the fire that is the ego.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I believe that most of us are fighting ourselves, we’re either too much or too little in most departments in life which takes us away from being.

It’s important to be goal oriented, but just like it’s important to diversify your financial investments, it’s equally important to diversify in your mental, physical and emotional investments.

What fuels your being? Are you taking steps to becoming more mentally, physically and emotionally balanced, or are you falling victim to obsession?

Be careful what you digest.

One of the most important things to consider is being conscious of what you digest and where it originates.

When it comes to food, it’s important to understand that you can enjoy savory-organic foods just as much as your favorite “junk food,” it’s all in the balance.

When it comes to emotions, it’s important to listen to your body and what it is telling you. Most people need to know that it’s okay to cry, it’s okay to scream and it’s okay to feel fear; only if you are truly feeling them and not holding on to them. Let them come, let them go, let yourself be yourself.

When it comes to mental awareness, be conscious of the information you are taking in. Do you really care what the Kardashians are doing, or do you only care because you want to have something to talk about in small-talk? Find balance in what you take in so you can output things that are actually fulfilling to you.

I’m sure you understand where I am going with this, it’s important to find the balance in your life so that you can start becoming the best you that you can possibly be.

Do what makes you feel good.

And be wise enough to know that what feels good now may not feel good later. If you need to lose weight for health purposes it will not be beneficial to “treat yourself” until you’ve worked to deserve that treat.

Set a goal and intention that correlates with self-actualization and follow through with that to develop the habits needed to achieve your own sense of happiness.

Hopefully this article helps you.

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